Have you ever wondered how come certain people do bad things to you for like, constantly? People you care, people you love the most suddenly get twisted and become wicked way more than your enemy ever did to you. Have you ever wondered why?
I've been wondering all these years until I recently watched The Silence of the Lambs. Surprisingly, the answer is here all along.
Hannibal: First principles, Clarice. Simplicity. Read Marcus Aurelius. Of each particular thing ask: what is it in itself? What is its nature? What does he do, this man you seek?
Clarice: He kills women...
Hannibal: No. That is incidental. What is the first and principal thing he does? What needs does he serve by killing?
Clarice: Anger, um, social acceptance, and, huh, sexual frustrations, sir...
Hannibal: No! He COVETS. That is his nature. And how do we begin to covet, Clarice? Do we seek out things to covet? Make an effort to answer now.
Clarice: No. We just...
Hannibal: No. We begin by coveting what we see every day. Don't you feel eyes moving over your body, Clarice? And don't your eyes seek out the things you want?
Before I go further, I need to set a parameter before our discussion leads you to the wrong end. An instant murder or homicide, masochism, sexual fetishism or demonic possession are excluded from 'bad things' list. What I mean is a mind game, based on a case of repetitive immoral actions which mostly in psychological manner.
The perpetrator(s) might be your best friend, family, lover, co-worker, your boss, colleague, teacher, neighbor, etc. You can barely recall what your faults to them but when they start, they keep doing it over and over again until your life shattered. No physical harm involved, but they're dancing with your brain to see you fall which I believe as the cruelest crime in civilization. Still remember how good The Joker danced in Harvey Dent's mind in The Dark Knight?
If you take the bait, firstly you're gonna doubt your own judgment. You begin to question unnecessary things in your life, lose your self-confidence and get troubled with trust issues. Slowly but sure you're gonna end up all alone. Why? Cos everybody wants to stay away from you cos they think you're disturbed. That's the ultimate aim.
No need to worry cos nevertheless, there are two ways to encounter these kind of people. It's either you can be smarter than they are or simply avoid them as much as you can. You don't learn wisdom at school, after all. Let nature takes its course.
Next question I assume will be; "How can I be smarter than them?". You've read the explanation, you know the 'why', so it's your homework guys!
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