There are a hundred paths through the world that are easier than loving. But, who wants easier?" -- Mary Oliver
Currently I really admire her quote above. She's got a point, hasn't she? Loving can be such easy and exciting, but sometimes it can be really painful and complicated.
Yesterday I had a short conversation with Edwin, my old crush in high school. I told him about the break-up, and so on, and somehow he came up with an awkward question (well, at least, it was really awkward to me); have you ever been deeply in love? I mean, loving someone to death?
I was keep in silence for minutes. I had to think.
But then I said...
Me: so far I don't think so. Less love, less hurt; when it ends up in a break-up. I need a precaution for that.
Him: ah don't be like that. If I may say, you must not limit your love. Let it all out, so that hopefully you will find your true love. At least, you can feel it in your heart.
Me: *stunned and questioning how he could be so wise* ... but I can't. I'm scared. I'm not keen to be desperate. Hell no.
Him: Everything that has a beginning, has an end. Break-up is one of common risks in dating. Why bother? ... and it takes two to tango. I mean, it takes two people to get into relationship. If you're afraid, that's ok, it's normal as a human being... but don't let it keeps you away from loving someone with all your heart, don't you think?
Him: loving sometimes needs a sacrifice, babe. Love is love, and hurt is hurt. Just let it go. You will learn something from it, I'm sure.
Well, like they said, it's not gonna be easy. Who wants easier anyway?
(Picture is a movie scene of "On Golden Pond" taken from IMDB)